Description for Enneagram Type 2 with a 3 Wing


Wing 2
Two (Core Type)

Twos want to be liked and will go to great lengths to meet the needs of others in a helpful, supportive and empathic way. They tend to be people-oriented and build relationships that provide the affirmation they need. As a result Twos tend to over-involve themselves in other people’s projects, lives and issues, at times uninvited and intrusively. Although Twos are giving and warm, they are also highly sensitive to not being appreciated and may become very angry.

At lower integration, Twos may be manipulative and blind to the destructiveness and neediness in their behaviour.

At the higher levels of integration, their altruism is unconditional and they are able to nurture themselves as well as others.

Wing 3
Three Wing
  • The Three wing brings more self-esteem, organization and focus, enabling effectiveness and delegation
  • This makes for good team players who don’t have to do everything themselves
  • The Three invites the ability to adapt to other people and get along with others in a variety of settings
  • This wing brings the risk of workaholism, as the Two becomes more involved with work and less with their inner self and needs
  • Their helping becomes more selective and prideful, as they work to be acknowledged by ‘important’ influential people
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Using the Wings to Develop yourself

As an Enneagram Type 2 with a wing 3, you have the ability to bring more self-esteem, organization, and focus to your relationships and work, which enables you to be an effective team player who can delegate tasks. The Three wing invites you to adapt to different people and get along with others in a variety of settings. However, you may also face challenges unique to your wing combination.

One potential challenge for you is workaholism. As your Three wing becomes more involved in your work, you may neglect your inner self and personal needs. Additionally, you may struggle with pride and selective helping. You may be drawn to helping and impressing important and influential people, which can lead to a desire for recognition and acknowledgement.

Using your wings to develop yourself as an Enneagram Type 2 wing 3 can involve leaning into the positive aspects of your Three wing, such as your ability to delegate and your adaptability to different people and settings. It can also involve being aware of the potential pitfalls, such as workaholism and prideful helping, and finding ways to mitigate these tendencies.

By connecting with both of your wings, you can expand your emotional and behavioural repertoire, gain a deeper understanding of your core type, and reframe challenges as opportunities for growth and development. Remember, your wings are like sauces that add flavour to your ice-cream, and you have access to both of them to create a balanced and fulfilling experience.

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